My husband and I don’t typically celebrate what we call “Hallmark Holiday’s”, but Mother’s Day and Father’s Day one of those days that we take a pause and celebrate each other. At first it was just a small card with the children’s hand or foot print. This year though, I thought for longer about this holiday than I have in the past.
The children are older, and I’m more sane and relaxed. I’ve begun to enjoy watching my husband parent our children. It’s turned from – please give me a moment to get myself together to wait, you’re not doing that right to wow – you really are a great dad.
On Father’s Day I also celebrate my Dad as well. I believe that our fathers do influence our choices in husbands and partners. I know my father did. I married a man who shares the good things my father has to offer and mixes it up with his own influences.
And I spend some time wondering about those children who don’t have fathers. Not biologically, but emotional, present, supportive figures in their lives. Thinking about those children takes some of the sparkle out of the day. But I also feel very lucky for what I have.
So, take a moment and think about those men in your lives who have played a “father” role. Maybe you didn’t call them Dad or you don’t have children who call him Dad, but his influence is felt. Let him know.